Tarek Fatah’s front page column in the National Post is a must-read for anyone following the Kingston canal murders – To Cure Honour Killings ‘Cancer’.
To try to find one section to highlight as particularly important would be difficult because the whole piece is a crucial and insightful analysis of the misogynistic attitude of some Muslims who seem to believe that women are merely chattels of their menfolk – without any rights.
Of course a culture clash is bound to erupt in our North American society where women are deemed to be equals of men.
A few days ago I asked, How are we going to stop this?
Tarek Fatah believes he has the answer – It must start with the religious heads of the community:
…Not until Muslim clerics and imams seriously abandon their notion about women being the possession of men will we begin to address the cancer of honour killings…
But how will they be convinced to do that?
Yesterday on Newstalk 570′s Jeff Allan show, Fatah was interviewed on this subject and he mentioned something to the effect that Imams in Canada need to stand up and say that women are not the ’source of sin’ and that consensual sex is not grounds for execution.
We can’t change the whole world, but we need to be trying to protect these Canadian Muslim women and children right here in our own communities. If it has to start with the religious leaders, then perhaps they need to be educated on what it means to be a Canadian.
Perhaps we also need to be a bit more vigilant when it comes to screening the attitudes of potential immigrants. If they refuse to open their minds to Canadian values, then we have a problem.
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Related: An article in yesterday’s National Post included a list of suspected ‘Honour killings’ in Canada.
The victims include:
AQSA PARVEZ
Aqsa Parvez, a 16-year-old girl, was found strangled in her family’s Mississauga home in December 2007, a killing that drew significant international attention. Her 57-year-old father, Muhammad Parvez, and his 26-year-old son, Waqas, are charged with first-degree murder in the case, which has yet to go to trial. Friends said Aqsa had been at odds with her family over her refusal to wear the hijab, the Islamic headscarf worn by some Muslim women. She had also been spending time away home, staying with another family who described her as a “typical” teenager who yearned for acceptance. She was reportedly trying to repair her strained relationship with her family in the days leading to her death.
AMANDEEP ATWAL
Amandeep Atwal, 17, died of multiple stab wounds in 2003 at the hands of her father, Rajinder Singh Atwal, who was convicted of second-degree murder in the case. He had brought his teenage daughter to hospital in Langley, B. C., claiming she had inflicted the wounds on herself, but court heard that Mr. Atwal disapproved of the 17-year-old’s love affair with a classmate, who was a year older. Her boyfriend, Todd McIsaac, said the two carried on their romance in secret over a two-year period after meeting in science class. Friends, his family and some of their teachers were reportedly turned into co-conspirators to keep the relationship secret from Ms. Atwal’s parents, as she was forbidden to date.
KHATERA SADIQI
Khatera Sadiqi, 20, and her fiance, Feroz Mangal, 23, were gunned down in the early hours of Sept. 19, 2006, in a car parked outside an Ottawa shopping plaza. Her 23-year-old brother, Hasibullah Sadiqi, was found guilty on two counts of first-degree murder, with the judge in the case saying a “twisted sense of values” led him to murder the pair. The trio had been out for dinner and a movie with friends, and conversation eventually turned to their father, from whom Ms. Sadiqi was estranged. Hasibullah told the court he had wanted his sister to respect that their father was “there for us” during their youth and became angry when Mr. Mangal did not back him up. The Crown argued it was an honour killing sparked by anger over the couple’s engagement.
AMANDEEP KAUR DHILLON
Amandeep Kaur Dhillon, 22, was fatally stabbed in the neck in the basement of a Mississauga grocery store on New Year’s Day, 2009. Her father-in-law, 47-year-old Kamikar Singh Dhillon, was also found at the scene of the crime with stab wounds later determined to have been self-inflicted. He was initially treated as a victim, but was later charged with first-degree murder in the crime. Media reports suggested that Ms. Dhillon, who had a young son living in India, was in an arranged marriage, with her family paying a dowry of more than $100,000.
SHEMINA HIRJI
Shemina Hirji, a 40-year-old school principal, died in her Burnaby, B. C., townhouse in the summer of 2007, less than a week after she married 34-year-old Paul Cheema. Mr. Cheema, who was widely suspected in her murder, was found dead of an apparent suicide about a week later. Ms. Hirji was of the Muslim faith while Mr. Cheema was Sikh, and the pair had reportedly been quarrelling over wedding bills. He told police intruders had invaded his home, attacked him and killed his wife, but his injuries were found to be minor. It was later revealed that Mr. Cheema had been jailed in Winnipeg in 1995 after twice threatening to harm another former girlfriend, with whom he was arranged to be married.
JASWINDER KAUER SIDHU
Jaswinder Kauer Sidhu, 25, was found with her throat slit in June 2000 after moving to India to live with her new husband, a poor rickshaw driver of whom her family disapproved. The B. C.-born woman’s husband, Sukwinder Singh, was brutally beaten and left for dead just a day earlier. Ms. Sidhu had reportedly told her friends in British Columbia that she feared her family because she had married Mr. Singh despite their objections. Police in Punjab charged nine people with conspiracy to kill Ms. Sidhu; among those charged was her mother, Malkiat Kaur, and her uncle, Surit Singh Badesha, both of Maple Ridge, B. C. Seven others who were charged in India were sentenced to life in prison.
I am grateful to the National Post for compiling and publishing this list. These were Canadian women. We let them down.
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Sunday Update: Imported evil of honour killing – Calgary Herald:
...This is not just a matter for the justice system but one for community leaders and the clergy. The latter two groups have a key role to play in heading off the potentially lethal intercultural and inter-generational disputes which sometimes lead to the murder of children from these cultures by their parents. They also have the authority and the linguistic capabilities to approach and educate recent arrivals about life in Canada, and to make them aware that in this country, women and girls are autonomous individuals, free to live their lives as they please.
This last bit is especially important. Immigrants are welcome but must realize they are expected to internalize Canadian values and leave behind repugnant archaisms such as this utterly skewed understanding of what constitutes male honour, and the obligation of feminine submissiveness…
Yeah well, not according to P.E.T.
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Tuesday Update: Deaths renew honour killing debate – Mindelle Jacobs, Sun